5 Things NOT To Do When Asking For Help

Rich Fabric went live today on Amazon.

It has been an amazing journey. Many people are involved. You can find the list of contributors here.

And, even more people are contributing to the ebook version of the anthology which comes out in December.

We’ve been featured on several blogs, and press kits are going out next week to many news outlets.

I’ve learned a lot about asking for help during this process, A LOT.

Here are Five Things NOT To Do When Asking For Help:

1. Don’t use guilt trips – Emotionally manipulating people – ick. If you’ve done something nice for someone in the past, don’t expect them to return the favor. Instead, tell them what you are trying to accomplish, how they can help, and ask them if they will.

2. Don’t use anger – connected to #1, but ventures into bullying territory. “I’ve done this for you in the past, or plan to do these things in the future to help you, but if you don’t do this for me now, you can forget it.” Not the best approach to build connections, is it?!

3. Don’t spam – Ask someone. Follow up. Then, drop it. I do recommend the follow up, though, because so much gets lost in email and direct messages on Twitter and Facebook. Asking the follow up is a quick reminder about your request. But once you’ve done that, let it go. Spamming someone in order to get them to help you seems counterintuitive.

4. Don’t take people for granted – This is a personal pet peeve of mine. Say “thank you” sincerely and frequently. Remember that NO one has to do anything to help you. They are giving you their attention and their time, opportunity, and in some cases their money. THANK them.

5. Don’t lose touch with the people who ARE HELPING – If someone helps you, keep them in the loop. Stay connected with them. Update them on the progress of the project and how their contributions are helping.


My request for help from YOU:

Rich Fabric – an anthology – is available now on Amazon and Createspace.

All profits from the sale of this anthology go to the Twilight Wish Foundation – a non-profit organization that grants wishes to Senior Citizens who live below the poverty level.

If you would like to support the Twilight Wish Foundation and get an anthology full of beautiful black and white photographs, entertaining short stories, engaging memoirs, interesting historical facts and quotes about quilting, please purchase a copy.


About melindamcguirewrites

The young man or woman writing today has forgotten the problems of the human heart in conflict with itself which alone can make good writing because only that is worth writing about, worth the agony and the sweat. ------ William Faulkner, Nobel Prize Speech, Stockholm, 1950
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2 Responses to 5 Things NOT To Do When Asking For Help

  1. I’ll buy one. It’s the least I can do after promising to help, but failing. I tried to write a piece so many times but it was pure drivel.

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